Let’s talk, Ma

How working on a blog post for Mother’s Day brought me closer to my mother

When I first started working on this blog two weeks back, my aim was to get mothers and daughters talk to each other.

Oh yes we talk all the time, but not on the topics I had in mind.

To put it simply, my aim was to create a dialogue between two women and not just a mother and a daughter. Owing to reasons only known to the universe now, none of the three women I tried to interview could talk to their mothers and ask these six questions.

Yes! Think about that. In my defense, I did give them ample time. After the initial struggle, I decided to ask my mother those same questions. I mean how can I preach what I don’t practice right?

I am so thankful to the girls who didn’t answer. Want to know why? Read on.

When my mother was my age, she had two children, she “badly” wanted to be financially independent and her husband was her biggest support. Her top three priorities were:

  1. To raise her children well
  2. Focus on the younger child more
  3. Buy a house

Now wait a minute. Why does most of this reads like my answers? I am so different from her isn’t it? I am not from her generation. I have always been a working independent woman who married when she wanted to and never settled for less.

And yet, when I look closer, there are so many similarities. The point I am trying to make here is that don’t think of your mother as someone who has lived a different life than yours.

There’s so much you can learn from her if you know the right questions to ask her. She’ll share her heart with you which she might not have yet! Look at her not just as a mother but also as a woman.

Empower her by having a connection with the woman in her and in turn, she will empower you, as she always has.

The “sisterhood” everyone keeps talking about starts from your family. Stop judging and start loving. Get over your arrogance and embrace each woman that comes your way.

Below are the set of questions I asked my mother this Mother’s Day. Do ask yours and let us know if they brought you closer to her.

  1. Age
  2. What was your age when you decided to get married?
  3. How many children do you have?
  4. What is that one thing that you were trying to achieve in life at my age? (Personal/professional anything)
  5. What were your top three priorities in life when you were my age?
  6. Who was your biggest support at my age?

Happy conversing ladies and Happy Mother’s Day!

Disclaimer: The opinions expressed in this post are the personal views of the author. They do not necessarily reflect the views of aweekinlife.com. Any omissions or errors are the author’s and A Week In Life does not assume any responsibility for them.

Written by Anushka Bhartiya

A journalist by profession, busy learning the ropes of motherhood and sharing the knowledge with the world through social media, one photograph at a time these days. When not busy going on nature walks with her daughter, can be found day dreaming, head first inside her diary. Claims to be a spiritually strong person who follows Buddhism as a way of life. An ordinary mother trying to make sense of the extraordinary journey called motherhood. A true Dilli-wali (from Delhi, India) at heart.

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